WHAT IS TASAWWUF (SUFISM)? Part 12

 DIFFERENCE BETWEEN INNER DRIVES AND BEHAVIOUR

 

One difference which is importance to understand here is between inner drives and observable behaviour. For example, angry and aggressive temperament is a drive, physically hitting someone is behaviour. If a person is used to habitually responding to any situation not of their liking by screaming and yelling, then regardless of how many times they are told that it is wrong to do so, they are unlikely to stop it. Even if they do want to stop it, it takes a mammoth effort to do so when one’s self-control has been taken over by feelings of rage and anger. That is why it is important to treat the inner drives of anger and aggression, and the core beliefs about self and others that make a person believe that it is okay to scream and yell at others, before they will truly be able to control their behaviour in most situations. 

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