WHAT IS TASAWWUF: 11 (talk by Mufti Taqi Usmani DB)
Sometimes Tawazu (تواضع) (humility) can be confused with disrespecting oneself (ذلتِ نفس) , and sometimes with ungratefulness (ناشکری) . It is often not possible to tell them apart unless someone has undergone training for this by a Shaykh. One cannot learn this just by reading a book and then beginning to decide what is Tawazu and what is disrespecting oneself. One can learn this skill only through practical training in which one keeps observing a Shaykh’s behaviour and actions over a period of time, and keeps seeking guidance from him after informing him about one’s own behaviour. Only after going through that process can a person learn whether a particular behaviour or way of thinking is desirable or undesirable.