RECTIFYING UNDESIRABLE INTERNAL ATTRIBUTES: 12 (talk by Mufti Taqi Usmani DB)

 Same is true of undesirable mental attributes. For example, previously a person used to get angry excessively and on trivial matters. He would start screaming and yelling, and abusing and hitting people if anyone said anything that displeased him in the slightest. Then when he started undergoing self-improvement as he started travelling on the path of Tasawwuf, he learnt that becoming angry excessive and in inappropriate situations is a sin. Then the next time he comes across a situation he would have become angry in previously, he suppresses his anger and stops himself from exploding. Even if he feels strongly like screaming at or slapping the other person, he tries his best to stop that impulse and keep his temper under control. For a person who always used to explode in anger without restraint, it is initially extremely difficult and a herculean task to restrain his temper, but as he keeps practicing it, it becomes easier with repeated practice to the point that even though he may still feel anger, but finds it much easier to stop himself from expressing it.