SEEKING FORGIVENESS FOR GHEEBAT (BACKBITING)? - 6 (a talk by Mufti Taqi Usmani DB)

 What do other people say about us

 

The other benefit of doing this is that one finds out what other, unrelated people say about you. People who are someone’s students or disciples always praise him. They do not say anything bad about him. That is why it is important for a person to also hear what people who are unrelated to him say about him, believe about him. This knowledge is also useful. If everyone around a person keeps praising him, sometimes the person develops ‘Ujub’ (عجب) (believing oneself to be superior to others) in his heart and he starts thinking that “as everyone is praising me so I must be someone special. That is why I have so many followers”. 

 

The treatment of this Ujub is to try to learn what people who are not your followers say about you, what they really think about you. This reduces Ujub. That is why whenever someone came to Hadhrat Thanvi RE to apologize for doing his Gheebat he always first asked, “I will forgive you but first tell me what you had said about me. Then I will forgive you.”

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